Blue Heart Community – The Little Gems

A unity community around wellbeing

Simply text, draw, email, an image of a Blue Heart in a format of your choice as a check-in symbol to a community member. Reach out especially, when you need someone to listen, need to create a place and language for what you want, or when you are feeling overwhelmed, down, depressed, stressed, anxious or deeply in need of someone to walk hand in hand and step by step together to seek out professional care.

Presence of family is the biggest support

For many a blue heart symbolizes…

A blue mood, so you are in good company. It also symbolizes the following, so you are in even better company:

Deep Stable Love
Trust
Harmony
Peace
Loyalty
Hope
Stability
Confidence

What this is

This is a simple idea to encourage you to build a Blue Heart Community with individuals you interact with in any capacity. This is a platform to support one another when facing moments of major crisis or when you just
need a shoulder to lean on.

How this works

Simply ask, “Would you like to be a part of my Blue Heart Community?” Share the idea.
Share the written guidelines with questions to ask and listening techniques.
Encourage others to do the same.

What this is not

This is not a tool to use to manipulate others, to be coercive toward others or to use as gossip fodder.
This is not a platform to inflict harm of any kind i.e., emotional, mental or physical.

This is not counseling.
This is not an advice platform.
This is not a substitute for professional care.
This is not a life draining, energy depleting platform.
This is not a place to pass judgment.

Within my scope Guidelines, Questions and listening techniques

First and foremost, if someone in your community
is threatening to harm themselves or others, contact the proper sources immediately!
Honor and respect others as you want to be
respected on all levels. Respect their time, their space, their perspective, their viewpoint, their beliefs and their choice to discontinue being a part of your community or to release them if you feel it is necessary to do so.
Be truthful at all times.
Make every effort to exercise extreme patience
and understanding. Imagine you are on the receiving end and proceed with that in mind.
If a conflict arises and escalates to an
unproductive level, agree to suspend the conversation.

Questions You Can Ask

Q1: Are you able to describe what you are feeling right now?
Q2: Are you able to share what you think could be a possible source of why you’re feeling what you’re feeling? What could it be TIED to? For example: T- Trauma (injury, grief, experience, event, etc.), Injustice & Inequity, Information over-stimulation, Isolation, E – Energy
drainers, Ego, Ex-relationship, D – Disappoint in self or others
Q3: What would you say to the source that is causing your feelings, if you had the opportunity to do so? You can share with me, write it down, say it silently, shout it out or think it through.
Q4: What could be another way of looking at this?
Q5: What questions can you ask to help you reframe your thoughts about this?
Q6: Do you believe that this is absolutely true? If so, why? If not why not?
Q7: Who do you think you would be right now if you were not feeling what you’re feeling right now?
Q8: Can You share a few small things that brought you joy and gratitude this week?
Q9: Do you feel that you were heard?
Q10: Do you feel that professional care could be helpful? If so, would you mind if I move in this direction with you?

Listening techniques

When someone is speaking, try holding a visual in your mind to support your ability to remain focused on the other person and what they are sharing. For example: Imagine the other person balancing on a surf board and you are the ocean supporting and keeping them afloat. Your role is not to take the surf board away and begin riding it yourself. Your role is to listen wholeheartedly and ask questions when necessary to help them survive the waves until they are stable enough to find the right balance.
Imagine that you are on the receiving end of everything you’re hearing and saying. Think about how you would feel, if you were the person you were in community with at that time.